Finding my delight in the journey of adoption.

What happened?

The details, as promised.  Commentary to follow.  For now, just facts.


We signed on with One World Adoption Services, Inc. (“OWAS”) in November 2010 to adopt two kids under 4 from DRC.  In October 2011, after being told that our referral would come soon since May 2011, we were sent a referral for two children (who we called Carolyn and Freddy) (who were said to be 5 and 3 – thus outside of our range).  Their paperwork did not include any information about the biological family, except that the mother was unable to care for them, and the father was “unknown.”  We asked a number of questions about their birth family and where the children came from and were told by our caseworker that she would look into it.  We never heard anything further.  We naively accepted OWAS’ word that this was all the information that we would/could receive from DRC.
[Sidenote: I said commentary would come later, but I lied.  Never, ever, ever believe this from any agency.  Information abounds.  Just now I found the former orphanage director on Facebook.  People.  It’s 2012.  Everyone has a cell phone.  Everyone has an email address.  Everyone has a computer.]
In February 2012, we passed court and received the parental authorization form.  This was the first time that we ever heard that the biological mother would have to be contacted and actively relinquish her rights.  Again we asked for information about her and her situation but did not receive any information from OWAS.  On the request for birth certificates, for the first time, we saw the name of a third child (Katie) and asked for information from OWAS.  We were then told that she was the children’s biological sister, who was raised with them and had been brought to the orphanage at the same time.  Based on this, we can only assume that when we had previously asked OWAS for information about the biological family, they were not attempting to get that information.  If they had looked into our questions, it would have been clear that the children had a sister in the orphanage.
We accepted the referral for the older sister not wanting to split up the siblings.  At that time, we finally received the “intake form” that included a little more information about the biological family, again stating that the father was “unknown.”
In the spring/early summer of 2012, the woman running the orphanage in Kinshasa was fired due to allegations of corruption.  This started raising our red flags.  When she was fired, she took (at least) three children from the orphanage to her home.  These children were later removed by the police, and she was arrested.  (This relates later.)
We passed court with Katie in March 2012 but never received all of her documents or confirmation that her birth certificate or passport were ever requested (we pulled out at the end of August).  This was concerning to us given the “shake up.”  We never got a straight answer as to what was going on with Katie’s case and whether OWAS had the documents, whether they were in progress or whether they were missing/lost/stolen.
In April 2012, we filed I600s for Carolyn and Freddy.  In June 2012, we received a request for evidence asking for more information about the mother’s situation.  OWAS was never able to gather adequate documentation, so we had to withdraw the I600 in order to avoid a denial.  Since we did not want to solely rely on OWAS, we hired another attorney in DRC to investigate.
It was at this point that the red flags became flaming red on fire flags.  First, our investigation revealed that the address given by OWAS for the biological mother was incorrect and that no one by her name had ever lived there, and no neighbors had ever heard of her.  Second, we then learned that Freddy was one of the children taken from the orphanage by the fired director, which explained why we had not received any photos of him for months while we did receive photos of the girls.  We asked for an update on him but never received any information from OWAS.  Finally, in another review of the documents, we saw that the biological mother had the same last name as the fired orphanage director.
In their attempt to respond to the request for evidence, OWAS told us that the biological mother could not be found and/or had moved.  However, days later, we received an updated “certificate of indigence” that said, on its face, she had recently appeared at social services and testified as to her status.  When we asked OWAS about this document, they told us that the officer had remembered meeting the mother (presumably a year before) and could sign the document based on her memory.  This did not sit well with us and looked a lot like a fraudulent document to us.
Based on this series of events, we decided we needed to conduct our own personal investigation since there were too many red flags for us to feel comfortable proceeding.  In August, we went to DRC.  We met with members of the children’s birth family and quickly learned that our suspicions were, unfortunately, true.  The documents that were used to support the children’s cases were all fraudulent.  The children were the nieces and nephew o0 the fired director, who had falsely indicated that the father was “unknown” in order to complete the adoption.  The mother and father are in a committed relationship, have other children and live about a 4 hour plane ride from Kinshasa.  Because the documents were fraudulent, we could not proceed with the adoption.
While we were there, we also learned that Freddy had been back living with his grandmother for a number of months after he had been removed (while we were paying monthly orphan support for him).  While in DRC, we met the children’s grandmother, and while she is not rich, by any means, we could see that she had some means to provide.  The children have been returned to her, and we are very glad for that.  Their grandmother loves them, and there’s no doubt in my mind that this is the best situation for them.
When we met with OWAS upon our return, they confirmed that we could not proceed with an international adoption where there are two known, living parents (not to mention fraudulent documents).  While we had hoped that they would work with us to resolve our situation, they refuse to refund any of our money.
These are the cold hard facts.  We have many other suspicions about further corruption in DRC and adoptions, and I will post my commentary another time.  Thanks for following our journey.  We are down, but not out!

13 responses

  1. Wow. I am speechless.

    September 27, 2012 at 10:39 pm

  2. Loryl

    Wow! I am shocked and appalled! I am very sorry.

    September 27, 2012 at 10:55 pm

  3. Oh so sorry to read this but sadly not surprised. We have many similar scenarios in Uganda. It is REALLY time that the International Adoption Community, the ‘Orphan’ Movement (included the 1000’s of corrupt orphanages), Churches and Adoption Agencies start realizing that damage that they are doing to communities in Africa and also the trauma that they are putting wonderful families like yours through by perpetuating the lie that Africa is full of orphans who need saving by western families. Of course there those children but the ones who really need an international placement are rarely the ones currently being placed.

    Thanks for sharing your story, I wish more people would be as honest as you – be brave and fearless in being speakers of truth.

    September 28, 2012 at 2:25 am

    • Anonymous

      Yes! This.

      If the church wants to help with orphan care, they must wake up and realize that the children who NEED homes are usually older or have medical/physical needs. 😦 The church has got to stop perpetuating unethical adoptions. 😦

      February 13, 2013 at 10:28 am

  4. I applaud you for working hard to find answers in a very murky situation, and to not just accept the lines coming from your agency. I also am so very sorry that you had to invest that amount of time, heart, and money into a situation that was so badly represented. I am not sure, with stories like yours abounding online, how people can still stay with OWAS. We are very lucky in that our DRC adoption is very clear cut (and with another agency) with information and assurances abounding, but if I’d have had any problems/unease/questions, I would have done exactly what you did. Way to stand up to the agency and put this information out there. Too many times, adoptive parents live in fear of telling the truth about things the agencies have done. In my opinion, you’ve got a case that should be taken to a lawyer. I cannot imagine any judge allowing OWAS to keep fees that were obtained on an utterly fraudulent basis. I’m hoping you figure out the best direction forward and will be thinking of your family.

    September 28, 2012 at 7:30 am

  5. Brent

    I have experienced a similar story, only through life adoption services. We were able to complete our adoption, but not after a gigantic international run around. It’s very sad because there are thousands of children that need a home. This story breaks my heart for the children and for your family. I pray that God will heal your heart.

    September 28, 2012 at 8:33 am

  6. Jo

    So sorry for your horrible experience. We did an investigation after our daughter was home from DRC and there were many things we wish we would have known before hand. I am angry and upset with ourselves for not questioning more from the get go.

    September 28, 2012 at 9:18 am

  7. Nicole

    thank you for posting this. I am so sorry you have been through this. Corruption is widespread. unfortunately.

    September 28, 2012 at 11:00 am

  8. Amy

    I am so so sorry. This is just heartbreaking. I will be praying that God will continue to comfort you!

    September 28, 2012 at 12:48 pm

  9. melanie Tulwitzky

    Can you share who the original DRC lawyer on this case was.

    October 1, 2012 at 8:50 am

  10. Wow. That’s hard to imagine. We’ve yet to receive our referral from the DRC, but this gives me some very good questions to ask and perspectives for when that happens.

    October 5, 2012 at 1:40 pm

  11. Toonces

    Wow, I’m so sorry that you AND the children and family had to experience this. But thank you for sharing the facts of your story so others can become wiser to the underbelly of intercountry adoption and proceed with utmost caution. We had considered DRC after our agency had a disruption in another program we had previously started before finally deciding to settle on adopting from a country with a much more established and stable program. We also decided to adopt a “waiting child” which had previously been something we had not been open to. I really think that it was reading people’s stories like yours that lead us away from the adoption “hot spots” and instead to a beautiful 9 year old boy that we hope to bring home this summer.

    February 10, 2013 at 8:36 pm

    • Thanks for sharing! So glad to hear you will be bringing home son. Best of luck to you in the process! I know how hard the waiting can be.

      February 11, 2013 at 8:10 pm

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