There’s a lot of press these days about ethical adoptions. A number of new books have recently come out, a documentary is making a nationwide tour, and the DRC has been seeing some ups and downs with its program (maybe other countries too, but I mostly follow DRC).
On one of my FB group pages, a common question is posed: How can we ensure that adoptions are ethical? I love the hearts of the adoptive parents out there. We all want to have ethical adoptions. No one gets into adoption to traffic a child. I personally know parents who have discovered that their adoption shouldn’t have passed muster, and the heartache is great. But is it possible to avoid this? The how is so much harder.
Faced with the difficulty of ensuring an ethical adoption, parents can go one of three ways: give up entirely, go forward in the face of possible shady circumstances, and move heaven and earth to try and do it ethically. There are certainly pros and cons to each approach, and it’s hard to say which is really the right answer. The waters are muddy.
And isn’t that what’s so hard about ethics? Once you are sure that no laws are broken, there’s still an area of gray. Sometimes the answer is unclear.
This is why I am still on the fence about starting again. I don’t want to give up, but I am scared of getting back in the water. I don’t want to screw it up!
As a Christian, I am called to get into the water. All the way to the deep end. Yes, we can’t fix all the problems with international adoption. The whole idea comes out of a broken, messy tragedy. Same with global poverty, world hunger, sex trafficking, war. There are no easy answers. But we have to try, don’t we? Because sometimes it works. Sometimes there is redemption.
And, really, what else do we have to do? Isn’t this why we are on earth? To work towards redemption and restoration. I can’t sit home and just focus on myself and my family. That’s not why I was put on the earth. I have been given so much, and I have a responsibility to use my resources towards this goal of restoration.
It’s scary. It’s hard. I don’t have any answers. But I will keep walking forward in obedience to the One who does.